I must admit, I was pretty late to the Brene Brown fan club, the author of 'Daring Greatly'. But after I watched her Ted Talk on vulnerability it got me thinking about the difference between vulnerability and the startup culture I had worked in, which is still referenced and is admired:
“Move fast and break things”
“It is better to get forgiveness rather than permission”
At first glance these quotes seem to be authentic and unapologetic, but acting like this keeps up the pretence that what we do doesn’t have an impact on other people. It also highlights how we actually value ourselves - in life, work and business - when we don’t try and honour the connection we should have with the world around us.
Being a wholehearted person sounds pretty abstract, but with Brown's research background it’s actually very tangible. It is not description of a happy or content person, but actually someone who believes in their own worthiness which allows them the freedom for creativity and joy that is often missing in people’s lives.
Below are some key ways she suggests how wholehearted people live their lives.
Have the courage to be imperfect
Perfectionism can be sometimes worn as a badge of honour and the only method of success, when in truth it is the least risky way of living. Brown suggests that perfectionism can reflect your fear and avoidance tactics.
Imagine all the things you do perfectly. Now imagine all the things that you don’t try because you think that if it’s not perfect, then you’ve failed or embarrassed yourself. Avoiding anything else but perfect limits your personal growth.